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Any mental agitation at all (either gross or subtle emotion) is a sign of faulty thinking. Drop it. Still experiencing it? Drop it again. And again. If you don't will to abandon foolish thinking completely, you will keep on experiencing it.
kellyjones00 (593)
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Main > Health > Mental health > Anger
Quitting anger:
Find a good reason to quit.
E.g. 'Anger makes me lose control of myself, which I don't like feeling.'
Prepare to quit: Notice when and where the spark of anger appears. Think about what ideas occur. Notice how anger makes one feel separate and powerful, but how people curl up into their shells and refuse to interact. Expand your sense of self to include other people, and to understand them more deeply.
Living without anger: Try using new thoughts, e.g.:-
- 'I don't need to get angry'
- 'Be patient'
- 'None of those harsh, dark thoughts'
- 'Is it worth the stress and hurry?'
- 'I have all the time in the world.'
Don't try to rush things. Rushing leads to stress, and also impatience.
Most people are very wrapped-up in their own lives. The more anger shown to them, the more they will get further wrapped-up into themselves.
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Main > Health > Mental health > Anger > Chronic anger
General tips:
The stress on the body from anger is considerable. It raises blood pressure, breath rate and heart rate, compromises the immune system, and is connected to strokes, coronary heart disease, gastric and respiratory conditions, possibly diabetes and cancer. Anger is also physically painful, more so if it is chronic.
Frequent anger attacks are linked to depression, which is anger turned inward that festers. It's also linked to anxiety, because anger is an attempt to ward off threats.
If you experience chronic anger, you need to deal with it immediately for health reasons, and for the safety of others.
Panoculus (40)
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Main > Health > Mental health > Anger > Chronic anger
Getting control back from an anger attack:
Go for a walk: Walk off the pain. Feel the warm sun. Get some fresh air.
Distract yourself but don't do anything: Find a comfortable position and watch your goldfish, or the wind in the trees. Try not to watch tv.
Write in a journal: it can help if your head is too cloudy to think. Cast your mind back over what's happened lately, that may have caused the stress reaction.
See a psychologist: there may be some issues you need more information about.
Look at your lifestyle: anger might also be related to lack of sleep, too many calories, lack of dark while sleeping, too much noise.
Look at your stress-coping options: help yourself by not relying on drugs, alcohol, gambling, dysfunctional relationships, 'shopping therapy', or overwork. These all have serious negative effects that add to your total stress and worsen the problem.
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Main > Health > Mental health > Anger > Chronic anger
Fix the problem: When you are feeling relatively normal, take a good hard look at your life. E.g.
- You are probably too busy.
- Stop carrying a bossy parental figure on your back.
- You probably don't delegate jobs. Your projects or timeframe for completion is probably unrealistic.
- Start taking regular breaks. Take afternoon naps. Make time by doing nothing. Take a day off, go fishing, play sports.
- You probably feel proud or vain about making life hard for yourself and being a tough bugger. Do you want scars from heart surgery too?
- Break with traditions and try something new.
Panoculus (40)
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Main > Health > Mental health > Anger
Let your anger course through your veins as genuinely as you feel it. Let it go in, but flip it inside so it comes out as controlled desire to resolve the issue. Action is the answer, not emotion. Allow emotion, but only within. In the world without, use control, action and determination/deliberation. Anger directed outside creates karma. Anger felt within but directed outside as extra-determined energy to create an answer, creates control and resolution.
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Main > Health > Mental health > Anger > Chronic anger
The most important thing is to never suppress your anger. Never deny your emotions. But never let them rule. Self-denial or emotive outburst is the path of least resistance to destruction and bad karma.
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Main > Health > Mental health > Anger > Chronic anger
Dealing with chronic anger:
Chronic, violent anger is often more commonly associated with men than women, but this may be because men are typically physically more powerful than women, and therefore a man's chronic anger can have more disastrous consequences.
Anger is an emotional reaction to a perception of threat and danger to oneself or others, so the underlying stronger emotion is fear.
Chronic, violent anger develops into a habit, when a person has experienced fear intensely and repeatedly, and cannot overcome the fear rationally. This may begin as a child, especially when the child's ability to deal with fear is diminished, e.g. by parent failure to assist, or mockery, and so forth.
Overcoming chronic anger and fear takes repeated patient thought-overhauling, with lots of honesty with one's self, as it is hard to relinquish the feeling of personal security that an attacking personality provides to a chronically timid being.
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