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General:- Be willing to negotiate in the first place. For example, if you're buying something expensive, be prepared to ask for a discount or extra service of some sort.
- Don't get emotionally involved. Be professional.
- Don't let others dictate "the rules". If you want to change an item in a contract before signing it, then do so.
- Never be the first person to name a figure. For example, if you're asked "What's your hourly rate?", you could respond with something like "What's your budget for this contract?".
- Ask for more than you expect to get.
- Let them believe the final decision doesn't rest with you. A skilled negotiator will always want to talk to the person who has the final decision, but don't let them do it. Tell them you'll discuss it and get back with an answer tomorrow. Ask them to make sure that's their best offer you can take to your "authority figure". This is also a great strategy for preventing people rushing you.
- Don't act too interested.
- Don't leave the other person feeling as if they've been cheated. Most negotiations should leave both parties feeling satisfied with the outcome. Be willing to give up things that don't really matter to you in order to create a feeling of goodwill.
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Main > Living > Negotiations
How to end an emotional relationship:
General:
"it is more blessed to give than to receive, but it is also more blessed to do without than to have."
Make your mind up alone. It is your decision to be in a relationship, never someone else's. It is also your decision not to be in a relationship, never someone else's.
Set a time when you and your partner will be rested, healthy, calm, and in a reasonable mindset. All that is necessary is to state your decision, your reason, and then to listen to any issues that might need to be resolved, e.g. how to divide mutually purchased property, or how to arrange care for children.
Be calm and reasonable, and don't fall into an emotional argument. Love for another person is not "forever", contrary to the fairy tales. Using love as an argument is, realistically, a form of emotional manipulation.
Detach your emotions.
If you cannot avoid becoming emotional, set another time, and leave the scene. Don't try to argue from emotions, as your partner may see that you are weak and manipulate that.
If your ex becomes unreasonable, and/or manipulative, first give them one more chance, and arrange another time to talk. Let them know if they blow it again, you will have to use a lawyer to arrange an agreement for any financial or family arrangements instead. Again, keep any emotions or vindictiveness out of your mind.
Don't treat the other person as an enemy. Negotiation should end with mutual satisfaction.
Once you have made your position known, don't reneg. Don't go back for sex or cuddles. It is truly best to have as little as possible to do with your ex. If you start to feel lonely and compelled to SMS, email, phone, or write, then distract yourself until it fades. There is great freedom to enjoy in being a single person: make the most of it.
Learn from your mistakes. Don't get involved again in that kind of mess.
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